For some, the term “Straight and Narrow Path” is a moral code.
I grew up in a religion that used the phrase to indicate that moral code, plus a collection of behaviors, rites, and rituals one must accomplish in order to receive exaltation.
Years ago, well before my traumatic but beautiful faith transition, I started to see a new meaning unfold.
As I took step after step into my own personal awareness journey, I started to connect on a deeper level with character attributes—where they served me, where they went too far, and where they didn’t go far enough.
If I was working on a new coaching program, kung fu skill, or speaking engagement, I had to infuse my own confidence into the project in order to keep pressing ahead rather than quitting at every whisper of my past screaming at me that “I can’t.”
If I took that confidence too far, it turned into arrogance, infused with ego, and stopped me from seeking valuable support or feedback.
If I remained humble, but remembered all of the proof in my life that I’m truly “less than the dust of the earth,” I slipped into self-doubt and depression.
I started to realize there is a perfect place where confidence without arrogance, and humility without depression coexist.
This is the Straight and Narrow Path to ultimate joy and love.
This is that perfect place of BEing within ourselves that serves us and others in the best possible way.
Amend this Common Dichotomy Immediately…
This Straight and Narrow applies to all of the vast dichotomys of life, however one stands out to me today as I see clients, students, and friends subconsciously use one beautifully true principle to squash an even more important truth—the value of their own self-love.
Serving others is a critical component of a fulfilling life, however, hands down, most people overvalue serving others and undervalue honoring themselves.
Regardless of how much they know and believe this principle intellectually, the real, tangible results in their life indicate they don’t actually believe it in their very being.
If you take an honest look at the evidence in your life and discover this is you, then it’s time to flip it on its head!
You MUST begin with the utmost love and respect for yourself in order to create the best you to give to others—the best energy, value, hope, friendliness, love, clarity of mind, and the list goes on.
There can be no other way to successfully render loving service but to begin with you. To attempt to forget yourself and begin with another person, is to destroy the order of existence, and to deny those you would serve of the very best of yourself.
Those in my Tai Chi classes will recognize the successful resolution of this dichotomy in the principle of the substantial vs. unsubstantial, as it relates to the anchor of your self-love feeding the ability to serve others as much as you would like.
Of course, do not restrict yourself in serving others until you feel fulfilled—it’s a symbiotic relationship, in which you’ll rapidly achieve your balance when you use both aspects to feed and uplift the other.
The Many Faces of the Straight and Narrow
What other character traits are valuable, but can easily contradict each other when taken too far or not far enough?
Here are some examples:
- Confidence & Humility
- Self-Love & Serving Others
- Exuding Joy & Processing Grief
- Living in Abundance & Budgeting Realistically
- Being Actively Fit & Pampering/Resting/Recovering
- Working IN Your Business & Working ON Your Business
- Productive Drive & Relaxation
Which of these do you feel are on point? Which are struggles for you?
Are there others that come to mind?
It’s a lifelong process to establish and live fully in your One True Straight and Narrow path of balance for benefit of your own greater good and of those around you. Awareness is the first step, followed by a commitment to adjusting.
Though this doesn’t happen overnight, we will establish the foundation for your balanced Straight and Narrow Path with the next group or private coaching offering.
For May 2017 (or until spots fill, whichever comes first) I am slashing my coaching prices as I launch my new S.E.L.F. (Self-Empowered Life Formula) Coaching Program.
Send me an email at Support@TanishaMartin.com to schedule a complimentary SELF-Discovery session to see how your self-love mindset and success-driven actions rate and where they are stuck, holding you back from having the time, money, or energy to excel to your next level and to love your life right now.