Your Next Goal is at Risk
You have a goal. Maybe you even have a clear plan to achieve that goal.
You’re on track, but you aren’t aware of what is lurking about to pounce and stop you dead in your tracks.
If you are human, you have both achieved goals and failed at achieving goals. Your goals are at risk of failure each and every time, so how will you determine this one will make it?
Each time you set out to accomplish something new, you hope it will work out. There are a lot of factors that determine its viability from the get-go:
- True desire
- Your goal is in harmony with your authentic self, your purpose, and the laws of the Universe
- Your 100% decision vs. 99% or less
For today’s topic, let’s assume all of these other factors are green lights—your desire is true, the goal is in harmony with your authentic self, your purpose, and the laws of the Universe, and you have indeed made 100% decision.
With all of those in prime position for success, the next factor to address is the secret your last failure holds.
One of my clients was in the middle of a huge upheaval in her life due to a move, which left her staying with family out of state, running her business out of boxes in her car, traveling for weeks at a time across the country, until she finally settled into her final destination, yet another state away. That’s transferring from state A to B to C over several months, while traveling the country in between.
It’s hard enough to run a business staying put, much less trying to stay on top of everything while being transient!
She had a goal to continue running and growing her business (indicated by specific benchmarks) while adapting to her life changes during this time, but she ended up experiencing intense struggle, stress, frustration, and distraction instead.
What did your last failure look like? It could be small with minor consequences or massive with critical, life-changing consequences. Either way, there are principles at work and clues that can change your world.
Why Did You Stop?
What caused that last failure? In more specific terms, what made you stop? Why did you stop?
I learned this approach from my favorite coach, David Neagle, and have found it critical to taking that next piece of power back into my and my clients’ lives.
For the client I mentioned, we took a look at her goal that was being put on the back burner, and why she stopped.
Her reasons were that XYZ problems and tasks had kept coming up. Every time she did what she was supposed to do, for example change her address with the post office as well as with a specific company, something would still go wrong, and she didn’t receive an important shipment before she had to leave on another business trip.
She felt powerless and completely stressed out as she checked items off her to-do list, just to have them pop up again, and interrupt her business and life in the process. She kept having to handle these issues, and did so inefficiently at that, while the rest of her business suffered.
In analyzing how these instances made her stop, we saw that she easily fell victim to the choices of others and gave in to the resulting struggle. This related back to her “control freak” nature, and the perpetual evidence that she must keep control at all times or else things “break.”
Another evidence of that operating program was when a major mistake happened that she knew was 100% her doing. In this case, she was easily able to face it and fix it, as opposed to the constant issues that were caused by third party involvement.
Can you see how her core, subconscious belief was dictating her experience of easily getting a solution in some cases versus struggling with stress and frustration in others?
Our subconscious serves to prove its beliefs. That is what we are “fighting” when we are trying to change our experiences and improve our circumstances.
Instead of fighting it, we understand that it’s only trying to preserve us, and we work to change that core belief into one more suited to serve us.
In recognizing her subconscious program which determined the point where she “stopped” moving forward, we were able to approach her challenges from empowerment instead of powerlessness, thus begin to change her experience. She was able to move from struggle, to having just another item on her to-do list to handle without the distracting stress and emotions.
Unlocking Your Failure’s Secret
To achieve your own goal, here are the steps to take before your next goal’s risk appears, before it starts to fall apart:
- Identify your last failed goal.
- Ask yourself, “What made me stop? Why did I stop?”
- Identify your responsibility. Whether those answers have to do with you directly or third parties and external circumstances out of your control, identify where you actually did have power in each and every case.
- Identify what core belief you are operating from based on the clues.
- Determine what the real truth is. (In my client’s case, she had to determine that we truly can’t control everything, but we can take our power back in everything and more effectively handle hurdles as they come.)
- Give yourself a new experience. (In my client’s case, she had to continue to relinquish control, and learn to consciously recognize when it worked out wonderfully. She then began to let the new evidence sink in, and let the struggle and frustration become empowerment to handle challenges when they arise.)
When you choose to stay victim to reasons (excuses) for failure, you choose to stay disempowered, upset, confused, and it interrupts you from adapting to the changes you want to make.
When you draw on the clues from past failures, you empower yourself to never let them stop you again.
Next step—plan your celebration when you achieve that next big goal!