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Eyes to Seize Opportunity

My boyfriend and I bundled up for the chilly but bright Colorado morning trek down the road to Nancy Lewis Park.

Its year-round pond fountain, meditation garden, and landscaping are still thriving in the winter! (Though this photo was taken at the end of the summer.)

Nancy Lewis Park Fountain

Even though much of the pond was iced over, ducks and geese were still swimming or sliding about! Mallards quacked in anticipation as we opened our bag of corn and tossed some in the water, then onto the bank. Once they realized we were giving away treats, more rushed out of the water to greet us.

Across the concrete path was a large grassy field where a hundred more ducks and a several dozen geese were pecking the ground.

As we approached them, the group slowly migrated away.

We grabbed a handful of corn and tossed it in there direction where only the fringe ducks noticed and edged closer to us, while the rest kept eking away. What rebels! They were the only ones brave enough to see that we had far better food than the dirt they were digging into.

A few ducks, and zero geese ate a fabulous treat today.

Are You a Duck or a Goose?

I looked at my boyfriend and said, “Oh my gosh, this is just like people! We don’t see the opportunities for something better or more or easier or exciting—we won’t even see it when it’s right in front of us!”

If we won’t see it, then we can’t take it.

This is how important mindset is—being willing to SEE, being willing to BELIEVE. To KNOW that everything we need is here somewhere waiting in the form of an opportunity to be seized.

Are you going to stay stuck in your best, but often unfruitful efforts with beak to the ground, afraid of anything that comes along that you think is too big for you? Or are you going to keep your head up and rise to the occasion and simply take hold of the opportunity for growth and amazing fulfillment?

Do you look around at a hundred people next to you digging in the same dirt? Or do you look to the fringes where successful people are growing in ways they never imagined?

You can be and have the results of either—it’s 100% your choice!

I hope you will be that duck, that lucky duck!

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A Fulfilling Life? That’ll Be Four Hundred Anxieties Please

How the Hell Did I Get on a Lion?

Yesterday I hit one of these moments when I was full of anxiety, tears, and brick-wall-head-banging. And today I read this article in Inc. Magazine, The Psychological Price of Entrepreneurship, quoted here:

Successful entrepreneurs achieve hero status in our culture. We idolize the Mark Zuckerbergs and the Elon Musks. And we celebrate the blazingly fast growth of the Inc. 500 companies. But many of those entrepreneurs… harbor secret demons: Before they made it big, they struggled through moments of near-debilitating anxiety and despair—times when it seemed everything might crumble.

Until recently, admitting such sentiments was taboo. Rather than showing vulnerability, business leaders have practiced what social psychiatrists call impression management—also known as “fake it till you make it.” Toby Thomas, CEO of EnSite Solutions (No. 188 on the Inc. 500), explains the phenomenon with his favorite analogy: a man riding a lion. “People look at him and think, ‘This guy’s really got it together! He’s brave!'” says Thomas. “And the man riding the lion is thinking, ‘How the hell did I get on a lion, and how do I keep from getting eaten?'”
I’m so happy this is becoming increasingly less taboo, and more authentically admitted as part of many people’s realities!

The growing pains of stretching outside of your comfort zone can be, and usually are, brutal. So why do we do it?

Because that’s where all the magic of an amazingly fulfilling life is.

We are not satisfied with mediocre. We thrive on experiencing things we never thought we could, and we live on the joy of helping others.

Watch a few of my encouraging thoughts in this short 3-minute video:

If you’ve hit one of those walls in the journey, remember you are not broken, “messed up,” stupid, or unworthy! Just the opposite—you are especially amazing because you are in the process of creating!

Take a moment and cry it out if you need, then get back at it like a Tiger until you break through the challenges and reach your dream.

Remember Your Big WHY

I hit a massive wall two years ago, not long after I started the memoir project at 150Husbands.com I mentioned in the video above. I was terrified to take it on and start talking about topics of abuse that would require me to be raw and open about my own domestic violence story.

I actually chronicled it in video and shared my progression throughout the day as I pulled myself up. It’s a long post, but you’ll see in the very first video the two moments when I couldn’t lie to myself or to you, as I suddenly reconnected to my big why.

Even as I was expressing fear and doubt, I couldn’t buy it when I knew I was drawn to this path. Remember why you chose your path, who you’re doing it for. If it’s big enough, bigger than yourself, then you will lay down your self-doubts and get back on the path.

Make Sure You Are Well-Supported

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Four Words that Will Change Everything Part 2

Last time, here at Tanisha Martin blog, we reminisced on the iconic movie Pretty Woman and those four words that make all the difference, “Take care of you.” (Check it out here if you missed it.)

Look around yourself for a moment and notice… No matter where you go or what you do, you are and have always been the center of your Universe. Of course everyone else’s world doesn’t revolve around you, but yours does! (And should.)

When we choose to accept the responsibility for being the center of our Universe, we choose to take in the beauty and appreciate it as well as ourselves for manifesting and recognizing that beauty. We also choose to evaluate and handle the challenges that come our way from the governing paradigm that it’s up to us to understand why we manifest them and find new solutions for desired results.

When we take responsibility for creating and embracing both the positive as well as the challenging, we complete the circle of power in our lives, and are able to manage and accomplish everything that is truly needed, and so much more!

Every client I’ve worked with for a variety of personal and business-related issues, had to first look at where they were or were not honoring themselves, and whether they were operating from a place of being a powerless victim or an empowered driving force in their lives.

Case Study: Opening up a maxed-out business to bring in $2000+ more a month.

One client of mine had built a thriving accounting business she ran solopreneur-style, and she wanted to add a new client that would bring in a couple thousand dollars more a month, but she was absolutely tapped out in time and energy.

We started by evaluating her mindset and identifying where she was or was not honoring herself in her personal and work life. To build a positive foundation, I had her start a Daily Fulfillment Ritual (all my clients have to do this, it’s that influential!), which varies per client and for her meant taking some quiet time to read her Bible and activate her love and spirituality for the day. This put her in the zone of being positive, open, and fulfilled each and every day.

Then we looked at some issues that were getting in the way of her productivity physically and emotionally. She established personal and professional boundaries and enforced them, which kept her from being a victim to others’ actions and put her back in the drivers’ seat.

She also adjusted her diet and exercise and started shedding some extra weight which gave her more energy and confidence.

From this healthy and improved self-honoring foundation, we then took practical action steps to create a smooth system for doing client work and open up space for the new client.

And every time her non-serving subconscious programs or limiting belief systems reared their ugly heads as she stretched out of her comfort zone to accomplish the truly amazing, I was there to help her get out of the muck and step back into her greatness.

My client set her goal, made the changes necessary, and was ready to add the new business and a couple more thousand dollars in income per month within a very short time!

It all stems from that core foundation of self-love and honoring, and flows out into the day-to-day actions.

Take Care of You

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To Be or Not to Be the REAL YOU

That is the question to which we all oscillate between conflicting answers—”Yes,” in theory, “no,” in reality.

Can You Be Your REAL Self AND Do Amazing Things?

We want to do amazing things, but we know we fall short. So short, we might not have to duck under low branches (staying small keeps us “safe” from opposition), but we still can’t reach the fruit (the magic that comes from stretching to live our deepest, most fulfilling lives).

We are flawed beings who may function and even thrive, but won’t ever get to that truly amazing place, because our screw-ups and problems keep us from ever being good enough.

This is what we often say to ourselves, or what we hear in the messages shouted at us by others and by our harsh challenges in life.

It isn’t the truth, though. Well, half of it is true, but the conclusion is completely off base.

Here’s what’s true:

  • You’re not perfect.
  • You do have flaws.
  • There have indeed been some screw-ups, messes, and hardships along the way.

Yeah, sometimes your real self sucks.

But… here’s what’s also true that we tend to forget:

  • That is NORMAL
  • That is part of being HUMAN
  • It MEANS nothing
  • You are worthy just as you are
  • That is beautiful

YOU Can Do Amazing Things

I want to be really clear…

You do not have to be someone other than yourself to do amazing things.

You do not have to be someone you are not to do amazing things.

You do not have to change who you are to do amazing things

YOU can do amazing things.

How do I know?

I’m pretty open about having a history of depression, social anxiety, and self-loathing, being a DVSA (domestic violence & sexual assault) survivor, and the fact that up until last year (when I went through the worst hell and most significant breakthrough of my life, a whole other story), I still had a suicidal thought regularly, like every week. This was BEFORE, DURING, and AFTER:

  • Achieving my 1st through 5th degree black belt ranks.
  • Taking over my kung fu school to be the owner and head instructor.
  • Taking commissions for fine art portraits.
  • Becoming a freelance graphic designer with local, national, and internationally relevant clients.
  • Creating massive breakthroughs in my life including busting through income barriers and leaving my abusive marriage.
  • Using my unique insight and experience to coach clients through their own personal or business breakthroughs.

Here’s my secret—

I didn’t wait until I was “perfect” or “better” to move forward in my life. I moved forward in my life so I could improve and be better.

I did all of those things and more IN SPITE of my flaws, weaknesses, and struggles. I just did it anyway.

This is what my clients do too. This is what you can do too.

So can you be your real self AND do amazing things?

Hell yes you can.

Besides, it’s not even you that has to change!

It’s the protective facade you have around yourself that has to be shed in order to reveal the real you.

It’s the “facade you” that is running the show manifesting what you have now, while the real you is tucked away inside, wanting something more or different, but staying safe from whatever you fear.

It’s that fear that we’re discussing on this FREE call, Shine Without Fear!

Fear of the judgment of others is so unbelievably common, we’re focusing on it as the main theme, and there are so many other fears to which this content will apply as well.

Yes, you will transform. No you will not lose yourself, rather you will gain so much more of yourself you will wonder why you ever doubted in the first place!

I hope to see you on the call. Learn more and register here.

In the meantime, do what you love through the fear. Do what you love in spite of your real or perceived flaws and weaknesses. Just do it anyway.

Eliminate Unnecessary Burdens through Two Questions

I got 30,999 problems, but you won’t be one…

30,999 unread emails, that is…

I am (pretty) good at scanning through my inbox of newsletters and marketing for businesses I still want to receive, even if I rarely open them, to find and read your emails, but I am not good at deleting those newsletters/marketing emails when I’m done or not interested in even opening them!

Subpar Solution to Perfectionism

I used to be super stressed out by the number at the top. I’m a perfectionist who was so overwhelmed by the ideal, ended up living in subpar messes. It was like if I couldn’t do it to perfection, why try?
That’s not a great approach! I have been slowly over time letting go of perfectionist ideals, thus enabling myself to raise my levels to a “normal” standard of excellence. I’m still working on this in some areas, but overall it has been a wonderful process to get out of extremes and into the healthy zone.

Does it REALLY Matter?

In this email scenario—who really cares if there are thousands of emails in my inbox? Deleting them can feel like a burden lifted, but why feel like having them there is a burden in the first place?
We have enough burdens that really do need attention, to make every other little thing such a cause for stress!
 
I will take some down time watching a movie to mass-delete by sender (a handy feature!) but only because I want to, and not because I HAVE to. It’s no longer driving me crazy. Why should it?
 
There is something to be said for keeping perspective on what really does and does not matter.
 
I hope to take what I learned here in seeing more clearly, letting go, and keep improving my priorities elsewhere in my life to eliminate unnecessary burdens, so I can focus on what really does need attention!

Identifying Unnecessary Burdens

It only takes a clear-headed moment and honesty to identify what really does or does not matter. Ask yourself:
  • Is the actual thing hurting me (or someone else), or is it just my perception around that thing that is hurting me?
  • If I don’t handle/change/address this, what will happen?

Just stop for a second. Relax. Get a clear head and ask those two questions. Be ultra honest in your answers and watch unnecessary burdens drop like flies.