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Empowerment Living and Faith Transition

Introduction to Commonalities Between Empowerment and Faith Transition

I have wondered whether I’d ever broach “faith transition” in conjunction with Empowerment Coaching, and the more I’ve shared about it on my personal Facebook Profile over the last year, the more I realize how it fits with the needs of many in our community here.

This is my first post on this topic on my Empowerment Blog, and I will import and add more here under a new category dedicated to experiences around “Faith Transition.”

There are so many joyful and challenging commonalities between the various aspects of a “faith crisis” or “faith transition” experience and personal development for empowerment!

Among them:

  • Living your authentic self
  • Recognizing your divine nature and worth with ZERO caveats
  • Dealing with criticisms of loved ones who don’t understand or can’t fathom what you’ve discovered or why you take the path you are on
  • Breaking out of the mold of the standard “middle/working class” mindset in favor of greater joy and abundance, and breaking out of the family and/or religious mold also in favor of greater joy and abundance
  • Leaving your tribe, your known world and community for the unknown
  • Embracing unrestricted access to all the Universe has for you

I’ve had many meaningful spiritual experiences and transformational breakthroughs in my life, and by far my faith crisis and subsequent transition has become the single most significant (traumatic, joyful, and important) event of my life.

If you’ve been through a faith transition, posts in this category will hopefully serve as support from someone who knows how traumatic having your entire world flipped upside-down in this way can be.

If you haven’t but know someone who has, I hope these will serve as a basis for understanding and thoughtful discussion.

Varied Beliefs Between Coach and Client

No matter what religious or other “package” you put around High Truth/Universal Laws, the Laws remain and are compatible with any belief system. I have experienced them as a firm believer in my former religion, and as a post-believer, and I’ve found they function the same.

Empowerment Coaching with me has no bearing on what religion, spirituality, or atheism you and I personally ascribe to, and as long as we both fully realize that, we can work together in utmost respect.

As always, the ultimate goal is for personal empowerment, whereby we can live our most fabulous lives and influence the world to do the same!

A Fulfilling Life? That’ll Be Four Hundred Anxieties Please

How the Hell Did I Get on a Lion?

Yesterday I hit one of these moments when I was full of anxiety, tears, and brick-wall-head-banging. And today I read this article in Inc. Magazine, The Psychological Price of Entrepreneurship, quoted here:

Successful entrepreneurs achieve hero status in our culture. We idolize the Mark Zuckerbergs and the Elon Musks. And we celebrate the blazingly fast growth of the Inc. 500 companies. But many of those entrepreneurs… harbor secret demons: Before they made it big, they struggled through moments of near-debilitating anxiety and despair—times when it seemed everything might crumble.

Until recently, admitting such sentiments was taboo. Rather than showing vulnerability, business leaders have practiced what social psychiatrists call impression management—also known as “fake it till you make it.” Toby Thomas, CEO of EnSite Solutions (No. 188 on the Inc. 500), explains the phenomenon with his favorite analogy: a man riding a lion. “People look at him and think, ‘This guy’s really got it together! He’s brave!'” says Thomas. “And the man riding the lion is thinking, ‘How the hell did I get on a lion, and how do I keep from getting eaten?'”
I’m so happy this is becoming increasingly less taboo, and more authentically admitted as part of many people’s realities!

The growing pains of stretching outside of your comfort zone can be, and usually are, brutal. So why do we do it?

Because that’s where all the magic of an amazingly fulfilling life is.

We are not satisfied with mediocre. We thrive on experiencing things we never thought we could, and we live on the joy of helping others.

Watch a few of my encouraging thoughts in this short 3-minute video:

If you’ve hit one of those walls in the journey, remember you are not broken, “messed up,” stupid, or unworthy! Just the opposite—you are especially amazing because you are in the process of creating!

Take a moment and cry it out if you need, then get back at it like a Tiger until you break through the challenges and reach your dream.

Remember Your Big WHY

I hit a massive wall two years ago, not long after I started the memoir project at 150Husbands.com I mentioned in the video above. I was terrified to take it on and start talking about topics of abuse that would require me to be raw and open about my own domestic violence story.

I actually chronicled it in video and shared my progression throughout the day as I pulled myself up. It’s a long post, but you’ll see in the very first video the two moments when I couldn’t lie to myself or to you, as I suddenly reconnected to my big why.

Even as I was expressing fear and doubt, I couldn’t buy it when I knew I was drawn to this path. Remember why you chose your path, who you’re doing it for. If it’s big enough, bigger than yourself, then you will lay down your self-doubts and get back on the path.

Make Sure You Are Well-Supported

There is no need to do it alone. Get a weekly tip and power meditation in our pre-program calls for Design Your Empowered Life with Tanisha Martin—ease stress, stay positive, and get energized! Get in on it at TanishaMartin.com/empoweredlife.

If you would like some extra laser focused support to get you through your last hurdles of 2016, I have a couple slots open in my end-of-year blast private coaching special. See details here.

Celebrate this Year’s Completion with a Bang!

Are You Celebrating or Hiding Out?

It’s that time again when we are deciding whether to celebrate all we accomplished this year, or to hang our head down and just try to make it through the holidays.

Even if the latter is true for you, it’s hard not to get at least a glimmer of hope as the energy of a new start in 2017 permeates the air that, “Next year will be different!” [Or “even better” if this year rocked your world!]

“I’ll finally shed that weight, grow my business, let go of an old lover, spend more time with my aging parent, etc., once and for all!”

I’m in that place with my weight. I’ve hovered at the highest weight I’ve ever been for a long time, which started when my ex and I were so broke we were living off free or 1/2-off pizza and pasta from his work. It makes me shudder to think that was my primary diet!

Even though we parted ways a several years ago, and my diet is much closer to my healthy standard now, I still haven’t kicked the weight. To further complicate it, I have had such painful back issues that culminated in knee pain that has severely limited my kung fu fitness.

Thankfully this year, it finally dawned on me that I am awesome at manifesting miracles out of the blue and seeing amazing results in other areas, so why not apply the exact same system I use and teach my clients with fantastic results to this issue?!!! Seems like a no-brainer, but it seriously didn’t occur to me until I was so frustrated with it I thought I might have to just give it all up.

Not two days after I determined I would turn this around using my own signature coaching process, one of my kung fu students contacted me and shared his experience not only in personal training, which I knew he did, but with post-rehab and corrective exercises. I was blown away that someone I had known for years might have a path to healing for me!

And that’s how this works—we make a decision (Spirit of the Crane, if you’ve been following me for any length of time) and an opportunity (Spirit of the Mantis) presents itself.

The other thing that comes up, however, is a challenge to make us quit, and those have been coming up right and left, until I recognize them and kick their trash because they are NOT stopping me (Spirit of the Tiger).

I am a few months in to a year-long effort to correct my body issues, then train up more aggressively for the following year, in order to prepare for the third year, which will be full of various pre-tests as I advance to 6th degree black belt.

I am on track and feel amazing every day I keep the goal in sight and do the work!

So what about you?

What do you want to achieve?
What are you ready to make happen once and for all?

What comes up for you when you think about it?

Is it all excitement and surety?

Or is there a hidden black cloud about ready to rain on your parade because:

  • You haven’t actually done it before
  • You always start a new goal or a new year’s resolution then forget about it within a few weeks
  • No one else will believe you can do it
  • You’ve made it this far without it, so why go through all the effort, it probably won’t happen anyway…

I hope you’re not latching on to those thoughts, but I know they creep in for most people.

Even with my weight, I’ve planned on dropping it for the last few years without success, but guess what is awesome about life? Past failures have no bearing on future successes. Neither do others’ thoughts about it—only your own thoughts and actions determine your rate of success.

We go around basing our choices on PROBABILITY based on our track records, while completely ignoring POSSIBILITY based on new choices we can EASILY make!

Yes, I said “easily.” It is easy. Change is surprisingly very easy. The only thing that makes it hard is our resistance to change. Clear the resistance and you can create any change you want in a very short time.

It’s time to make the changes you’ve had in mind all year to finally get the results you want.

You Are Right There—Make It Happen!

Since we are wrapping up 2016, and you and I both know that change is drastically easier when you have support, I am offering a special end-of-year private coaching package! Learn more here.

Or, if you’d rather ride out the holidays and begin with a bang in 2017, you can Design Your Empowered Life beginning January 10, 2017 through my brand new 3-month program. Learn more at TanishaMartin.com/empowered life.

Email me at Support@TanishaMartin.com if you would like a complimentary Discovery Session to more clearly determine how I can support you.

This life is yours, and it’s the only one you have.
Grab it and take it where you want to go!

Four Words that Will Change Everything Part 2

Last time, here at Tanisha Martin blog, we reminisced on the iconic movie Pretty Woman and those four words that make all the difference, “Take care of you.” (Check it out here if you missed it.)

Look around yourself for a moment and notice… No matter where you go or what you do, you are and have always been the center of your Universe. Of course everyone else’s world doesn’t revolve around you, but yours does! (And should.)

When we choose to accept the responsibility for being the center of our Universe, we choose to take in the beauty and appreciate it as well as ourselves for manifesting and recognizing that beauty. We also choose to evaluate and handle the challenges that come our way from the governing paradigm that it’s up to us to understand why we manifest them and find new solutions for desired results.

When we take responsibility for creating and embracing both the positive as well as the challenging, we complete the circle of power in our lives, and are able to manage and accomplish everything that is truly needed, and so much more!

Every client I’ve worked with for a variety of personal and business-related issues, had to first look at where they were or were not honoring themselves, and whether they were operating from a place of being a powerless victim or an empowered driving force in their lives.

Case Study: Opening up a maxed-out business to bring in $2000+ more a month.

One client of mine had built a thriving accounting business she ran solopreneur-style, and she wanted to add a new client that would bring in a couple thousand dollars more a month, but she was absolutely tapped out in time and energy.

We started by evaluating her mindset and identifying where she was or was not honoring herself in her personal and work life. To build a positive foundation, I had her start a Daily Fulfillment Ritual (all my clients have to do this, it’s that influential!), which varies per client and for her meant taking some quiet time to read her Bible and activate her love and spirituality for the day. This put her in the zone of being positive, open, and fulfilled each and every day.

Then we looked at some issues that were getting in the way of her productivity physically and emotionally. She established personal and professional boundaries and enforced them, which kept her from being a victim to others’ actions and put her back in the drivers’ seat.

She also adjusted her diet and exercise and started shedding some extra weight which gave her more energy and confidence.

From this healthy and improved self-honoring foundation, we then took practical action steps to create a smooth system for doing client work and open up space for the new client.

And every time her non-serving subconscious programs or limiting belief systems reared their ugly heads as she stretched out of her comfort zone to accomplish the truly amazing, I was there to help her get out of the muck and step back into her greatness.

My client set her goal, made the changes necessary, and was ready to add the new business and a couple more thousand dollars in income per month within a very short time!

It all stems from that core foundation of self-love and honoring, and flows out into the day-to-day actions.

Take Care of You

If you are ready to experience something like this in your own life without the struggle of endless trial and error to figure it out on your own, I have a few private coaching slots available right now at a special end-of-year Bust-the-Finish-Line rate and it also includes my new Design Your Empowered Life Platinum program (beginning January 10, 2017) as a FREE BONUS!

Email me at Tanisha@TanishaMartin.com or call (719) 377-2108 to schedule a complimentary, no-obligation Discovery Session to see if private coaching and Design Your Empowered Life is a good fit for you!

Four Words that Will Change Everything Part 1

When you were first dazzled by the modern Cinderella story in Pretty Woman as Vivian emerged from her dark and uncertain life to become a lady in love and temporally cared for, did the vision of triumphant love and authenticity end with the credits when you left the theater?

Were you stuck on the saving actions of Edward? How he saved her from her tough life, even if you recognized she saved him as well?

Or did you realize that it was her story and as her story, it was all about her saving herself?

It wasn’t Edward. It was Vivian.

It’s never the external that saves us, though as influential factors they are greatly appreciated. The external isn’t the cause of our plight or out saving, it’s the result. Our experiences with the external circumstances are the result.

The result of what?

Of us. Of our lessons to be learned, our view points, and most significantly, the result our internal programming and mindset.

When the change happens, when our lives turn around, when that miracle comes through, it’s always because of us. Because we were ready to change, to bring our true authentic self forward, to breakthrough, stretch, and grow, even if it scares the sh!t out of us.

We take in the support, the assistance, the divine guidance. We use those, and in the end, it works out because of us. Because of four little words Kit and Vivian told each other every time they went to work.

“Take care of you.”

This is the foundation of my new program, Design Your Empowered Life, where beauty and miracles infuse your individual goals and desires in your daily life as well as long-term goals. Confidence, energy, time, finances, and all that is necessary for joyful living are yours when you empower yourself with what you need and want. Take care of you and learn more here.

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