Empowerment Living and Faith Transition

Introduction to Commonalities Between Empowerment and Faith Transition

I have wondered whether I’d ever broach “faith transition” in conjunction with Empowerment Coaching, and the more I’ve shared about it on my personal Facebook Profile over the last year, the more I realize how it fits with the needs of many in our community here.

This is my first post on this topic on my Empowerment Blog, and I will import and add more here under a new category dedicated to experiences around “Faith Transition.”

There are so many joyful and challenging commonalities between the various aspects of a “faith crisis” or “faith transition” experience and personal development for empowerment!

Among them:

  • Living your authentic self
  • Recognizing your divine nature and worth with ZERO caveats
  • Dealing with criticisms of loved ones who don’t understand or can’t fathom what you’ve discovered or why you take the path you are on
  • Breaking out of the mold of the standard “middle/working class” mindset in favor of greater joy and abundance, and breaking out of the family and/or religious mold also in favor of greater joy and abundance
  • Leaving your tribe, your known world and community for the unknown
  • Embracing unrestricted access to all the Universe has for you

I’ve had many meaningful spiritual experiences and transformational breakthroughs in my life, and by far my faith crisis and subsequent transition has become the single most significant (traumatic, joyful, and important) event of my life.

If you’ve been through a faith transition, posts in this category will hopefully serve as support from someone who knows how traumatic having your entire world flipped upside-down in this way can be.

If you haven’t but know someone who has, I hope these will serve as a basis for understanding and thoughtful discussion.

Varied Beliefs Between Coach and Client

No matter what religious or other “package” you put around High Truth/Universal Laws, the Laws remain and are compatible with any belief system. I have experienced them as a firm believer in my former religion, and as a post-believer, and I’ve found they function the same.

Empowerment Coaching with me has no bearing on what religion, spirituality, or atheism you and I personally ascribe to, and as long as we both fully realize that, we can work together in utmost respect.

As always, the ultimate goal is for personal empowerment, whereby we can live our most fabulous lives and influence the world to do the same!

Eyes to Seize Opportunity

My boyfriend and I bundled up for the chilly but bright Colorado morning trek down the road to Nancy Lewis Park.

Its year-round pond fountain, meditation garden, and landscaping are still thriving in the winter! (Though this photo was taken at the end of the summer.)

Nancy Lewis Park Fountain

Even though much of the pond was iced over, ducks and geese were still swimming or sliding about! Mallards quacked in anticipation as we opened our bag of corn and tossed some in the water, then onto the bank. Once they realized we were giving away treats, more rushed out of the water to greet us.

Across the concrete path was a large grassy field where a hundred more ducks and a several dozen geese were pecking the ground.

As we approached them, the group slowly migrated away.

We grabbed a handful of corn and tossed it in there direction where only the fringe ducks noticed and edged closer to us, while the rest kept eking away. What rebels! They were the only ones brave enough to see that we had far better food than the dirt they were digging into.

A few ducks, and zero geese ate a fabulous treat today.

Are You a Duck or a Goose?

I looked at my boyfriend and said, “Oh my gosh, this is just like people! We don’t see the opportunities for something better or more or easier or exciting—we won’t even see it when it’s right in front of us!”

If we won’t see it, then we can’t take it.

This is how important mindset is—being willing to SEE, being willing to BELIEVE. To KNOW that everything we need is here somewhere waiting in the form of an opportunity to be seized.

Are you going to stay stuck in your best, but often unfruitful efforts with beak to the ground, afraid of anything that comes along that you think is too big for you? Or are you going to keep your head up and rise to the occasion and simply take hold of the opportunity for growth and amazing fulfillment?

Do you look around at a hundred people next to you digging in the same dirt? Or do you look to the fringes where successful people are growing in ways they never imagined?

You can be and have the results of either—it’s 100% your choice!

I hope you will be that duck, that lucky duck!

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The One True Straight and Narrow Path

For some, the term “Straight and Narrow Path” is a moral code.

I grew up in a religion that used the phrase to indicate that moral code, plus a collection of behaviors, rites, and rituals one must accomplish in order to receive exaltation.

Years ago, well before my traumatic but beautiful faith transition, I started to see a new meaning unfold.

As I took step after step into my own personal awareness journey, I started to connect on a deeper level with character attributes—where they served me, where they went too far, and where they didn’t go far enough.

If I was working on a new coaching program, kung fu skill, or speaking engagement, I had to infuse my own confidence into the project in order to keep pressing ahead rather than quitting at every whisper of my past screaming at me that “I can’t.”

If I took that confidence too far, it turned into arrogance, infused with ego, and stopped me from seeking valuable support or feedback.

If I remained humble, but remembered all of the proof in my life that I’m truly “less than the dust of the earth,” I slipped into self-doubt and depression.

I started to realize there is a perfect place where confidence without arrogance, and humility without depression coexist.

This is the Straight and Narrow Path to ultimate joy and love.

This is that perfect place of BEing within ourselves that serves us and others in the best possible way.

Amend this Common Dichotomy Immediately…

This Straight and Narrow applies to all of the vast dichotomys of life, however one stands out to me today as I see clients, students, and friends subconsciously use one beautifully true principle to squash an even more important truth—the value of their own self-love.

Serving others is a critical component of a fulfilling life, however, hands down, most people overvalue serving others and undervalue honoring themselves.

Regardless of how much they know and believe this principle intellectually, the real, tangible results in their life indicate they don’t actually believe it in their very being.

If you take an honest look at the evidence in your life and discover this is you, then it’s time to flip it on its head!

You MUST begin with the utmost love and respect for yourself in order to create the best you to give to others—the best energy, value, hope, friendliness, love, clarity of mind, and the list goes on.

There can be no other way to successfully render loving service but to begin with you. To attempt to forget yourself and begin with another person, is to destroy the order of existence, and to deny those you would serve of the very best of yourself.

Those in my Tai Chi classes will recognize the successful resolution of this dichotomy in the principle of the substantial vs. unsubstantial, as it relates to the anchor of your self-love feeding the ability to serve others as much as you would like.

Of course, do not restrict yourself in serving others until you feel fulfilled—it’s a symbiotic relationship, in which you’ll rapidly achieve your balance when you use both aspects to feed and uplift the other.

The Many Faces of the Straight and Narrow

What other character traits are valuable, but can easily contradict each other when taken too far or not far enough?

Here are some examples:

  • Confidence & Humility
  • Self-Love & Serving Others
  • Exuding Joy & Processing Grief
  • Living in Abundance & Budgeting Realistically
  • Being Actively Fit & Pampering/Resting/Recovering
  • Working IN Your Business & Working ON Your Business
  • Productive Drive & Relaxation

Which of these do you feel are on point? Which are struggles for you?

Are there others that come to mind?

It’s a lifelong process to establish and live fully in your One True Straight and Narrow path of balance for benefit of your own greater good and of those around you. Awareness is the first step, followed by a commitment to adjusting.

Though this doesn’t happen overnight, we will establish the foundation for your balanced Straight and Narrow Path with the next group or private coaching offering.

UPDATE:

For May 2017 (or until spots fill, whichever comes first) I am slashing my coaching prices as I launch my new S.E.L.F. (Self-Empowered Life Formula) Coaching Program.

Send me an email at Support@TanishaMartin.com to schedule a complimentary SELF-Discovery session to see how your self-love mindset and success-driven actions rate and where they are stuck, holding you back from having the time, money, or energy to excel to your next level and to love your life right now.

 

A Fulfilling Life? That’ll Be Four Hundred Anxieties Please

How the Hell Did I Get on a Lion?

Yesterday I hit one of these moments when I was full of anxiety, tears, and brick-wall-head-banging. And today I read this article in Inc. Magazine, The Psychological Price of Entrepreneurship, quoted here:

Successful entrepreneurs achieve hero status in our culture. We idolize the Mark Zuckerbergs and the Elon Musks. And we celebrate the blazingly fast growth of the Inc. 500 companies. But many of those entrepreneurs… harbor secret demons: Before they made it big, they struggled through moments of near-debilitating anxiety and despair—times when it seemed everything might crumble.

Until recently, admitting such sentiments was taboo. Rather than showing vulnerability, business leaders have practiced what social psychiatrists call impression management—also known as “fake it till you make it.” Toby Thomas, CEO of EnSite Solutions (No. 188 on the Inc. 500), explains the phenomenon with his favorite analogy: a man riding a lion. “People look at him and think, ‘This guy’s really got it together! He’s brave!'” says Thomas. “And the man riding the lion is thinking, ‘How the hell did I get on a lion, and how do I keep from getting eaten?'”
I’m so happy this is becoming increasingly less taboo, and more authentically admitted as part of many people’s realities!

The growing pains of stretching outside of your comfort zone can be, and usually are, brutal. So why do we do it?

Because that’s where all the magic of an amazingly fulfilling life is.

We are not satisfied with mediocre. We thrive on experiencing things we never thought we could, and we live on the joy of helping others.

Watch a few of my encouraging thoughts in this short 3-minute video:

If you’ve hit one of those walls in the journey, remember you are not broken, “messed up,” stupid, or unworthy! Just the opposite—you are especially amazing because you are in the process of creating!

Take a moment and cry it out if you need, then get back at it like a Tiger until you break through the challenges and reach your dream.

Remember Your Big WHY

I hit a massive wall two years ago, not long after I started the memoir project at 150Husbands.com I mentioned in the video above. I was terrified to take it on and start talking about topics of abuse that would require me to be raw and open about my own domestic violence story.

I actually chronicled it in video and shared my progression throughout the day as I pulled myself up. It’s a long post, but you’ll see in the very first video the two moments when I couldn’t lie to myself or to you, as I suddenly reconnected to my big why.

Even as I was expressing fear and doubt, I couldn’t buy it when I knew I was drawn to this path. Remember why you chose your path, who you’re doing it for. If it’s big enough, bigger than yourself, then you will lay down your self-doubts and get back on the path.

Make Sure You Are Well-Supported

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Celebrate this Year’s Completion with a Bang!

Are You Celebrating or Hiding Out?

It’s that time again when we are deciding whether to celebrate all we accomplished this year, or to hang our head down and just try to make it through the holidays.

Even if the latter is true for you, it’s hard not to get at least a glimmer of hope as the energy of a new start in 2017 permeates the air that, “Next year will be different!” [Or “even better” if this year rocked your world!]

“I’ll finally shed that weight, grow my business, let go of an old lover, spend more time with my aging parent, etc., once and for all!”

I’m in that place with my weight. I’ve hovered at the highest weight I’ve ever been for a long time, which started when my ex and I were so broke we were living off free or 1/2-off pizza and pasta from his work. It makes me shudder to think that was my primary diet!

Even though we parted ways a several years ago, and my diet is much closer to my healthy standard now, I still haven’t kicked the weight. To further complicate it, I have had such painful back issues that culminated in knee pain that has severely limited my kung fu fitness.

Thankfully this year, it finally dawned on me that I am awesome at manifesting miracles out of the blue and seeing amazing results in other areas, so why not apply the exact same system I use and teach my clients with fantastic results to this issue?!!! Seems like a no-brainer, but it seriously didn’t occur to me until I was so frustrated with it I thought I might have to just give it all up.

Not two days after I determined I would turn this around using my own signature coaching process, one of my kung fu students contacted me and shared his experience not only in personal training, which I knew he did, but with post-rehab and corrective exercises. I was blown away that someone I had known for years might have a path to healing for me!

And that’s how this works—we make a decision (Spirit of the Crane, if you’ve been following me for any length of time) and an opportunity (Spirit of the Mantis) presents itself.

The other thing that comes up, however, is a challenge to make us quit, and those have been coming up right and left, until I recognize them and kick their trash because they are NOT stopping me (Spirit of the Tiger).

I am a few months in to a year-long effort to correct my body issues, then train up more aggressively for the following year, in order to prepare for the third year, which will be full of various pre-tests as I advance to 6th degree black belt.

I am on track and feel amazing every day I keep the goal in sight and do the work!

So what about you?

What do you want to achieve?
What are you ready to make happen once and for all?

What comes up for you when you think about it?

Is it all excitement and surety?

Or is there a hidden black cloud about ready to rain on your parade because:

  • You haven’t actually done it before
  • You always start a new goal or a new year’s resolution then forget about it within a few weeks
  • No one else will believe you can do it
  • You’ve made it this far without it, so why go through all the effort, it probably won’t happen anyway…

I hope you’re not latching on to those thoughts, but I know they creep in for most people.

Even with my weight, I’ve planned on dropping it for the last few years without success, but guess what is awesome about life? Past failures have no bearing on future successes. Neither do others’ thoughts about it—only your own thoughts and actions determine your rate of success.

We go around basing our choices on PROBABILITY based on our track records, while completely ignoring POSSIBILITY based on new choices we can EASILY make!

Yes, I said “easily.” It is easy. Change is surprisingly very easy. The only thing that makes it hard is our resistance to change. Clear the resistance and you can create any change you want in a very short time.

It’s time to make the changes you’ve had in mind all year to finally get the results you want.

You Are Right There—Make It Happen!

Since we are wrapping up 2016, and you and I both know that change is drastically easier when you have support, I am offering a special end-of-year private coaching package! Learn more here.

Or, if you’d rather ride out the holidays and begin with a bang in 2017, you can Design Your Empowered Life beginning January 10, 2017 through my brand new 3-month program. Learn more at TanishaMartin.com/empowered life.

Email me at Support@TanishaMartin.com if you would like a complimentary Discovery Session to more clearly determine how I can support you.

This life is yours, and it’s the only one you have.
Grab it and take it where you want to go!